This Mental Trick Will Finally Make You Stop Comparing Yourself to Others

Monitoring someone else’s weight loss won’t help yours.

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You know that jealous feeling when you’re at the gym and you step off the treadmill after a three-mile run, only to see the guy on the machine next to you is on mile six? If you truly want to work on yourself and your health, you must let that feeling go.

“The energy of envy doesn’t get you anywhere because you’re comparing yourself,” says wellness chef Charles Chen. “Once you compare yourself, you take your power away.”

Chen is a chef, entrepreneur, and vivacious host of the online cooking show Kitchen Hustle, where “hustlers learn how to fuel their passions.” Throughout his childhood, Chen struggled with his health. As a teenager, he was prediabetic and a self-proclaimed couch potato who had no energy or motivation to make healthier choices. After hitting what he calls his “rock bottom moment,” he reclaimed his health, lost more than 100 pounds, and now helps others fuel their “bodies, mind, and spirit starting in the kitchen.”

Instead of comparing yourself to others and what size jeans they’re currently in, Chen suggests focusing purely on you, your goals, and your action steps for the day to reach those goals.

This is about your health and your body, and everyone will progress at different paces. Don’t expect your progress to be linear, either—there may be ups and downs.  Each day, Chen recommends asking yourself, “What is it that you can do today to invest in you?”

Here’s a suggestion for dinner tonight: Try Chen’s low-carb cauliflower fried rice that tastes like the real thing.