You’ll find toxic people. Here’s why you should let them go.
When it comes to making major lifestyle changes (like ones that can help you lose 100 pounds) surrounding yourself with the right group of people isn’t just an option; it’s a must.
That was especially important for wellness chef Charles Chen, who had to change his ways at the age of 15 when he was diagnosed as prediabetic. “I found some other kids at school who were going through the same thing,” says Chen, “and it was like the safe place where we can share our feelings, almost like a therapy.”
Chen is a chef, entrepreneur, and vivacious host of the online cooking show Kitchen Hustle, where “hustlers learn how to fuel their passions.” Throughout his childhood, Chen struggled with his health. As a teenager, he was prediabetic and a self-proclaimed couch potato who had no energy or motivation to make healthier choices. After hitting what he calls his “rock bottom moment,” he reclaimed his health, lost more than 100 pounds, and now helps others fuel their “bodies, mind, and spirit starting in the kitchen.”
The most important quality to look for in a support system is the absence of judgment, says Chen. Cleaning up your diet or attempting to lose weight can sometimes bring out judgment from others who—for one reason or another—are resistant to seeing you change.
“I know that I had to give up friends that just wanted to party,” Chen recalls, “so I really found a group of like-minded individuals.” And don’t think of it as selfish, either. Says Chen, “We want to better ourselves so we can better share our values and gifts to the world.”
Charles Chen is a chef, host, and wellness expert based in Los Angeles and New York City.
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My name is Charles Chen,
I am a wellness chef.
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I gained over 100 pounds,
I was pre-diabetic, I had heart problems.
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Food actually saved my life,
I transformed my life through food.
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I think it's so
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important to have a support system when
it comes to a weight loss journey.
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Or eating healthier, or
going on this healthy journey.
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When I was struggling with my weight,
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I found some other kids at school that
were going through the same thing.
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And it was like this safe place
where we can share our feelings,
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almost like a group therapy.
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We can be honest with what we're going
through, and there was no judgment.
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I think that's the main thing,
you never want to feel judged.
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I know that when some people
start a healthy journey, and
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they might change the foods that they eat.
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Some of their friends and family might
start judging them for what they do,
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like, you can't do that,
or, you shouldn't do that.
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So it's really important for you to have
people who support you and reinforce that.
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It's been such a pleasure having
you with me on this journey.
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We're here to support each other.
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Yes, you should have self care time and
you should invest in yourself,
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let's do something active.
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I know that I had to give up friends
that just wanted to party, or
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just wanted to focus on other things.
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So I really found a group of like-minded
individuals who shared the same common
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Which is, we want to better ourselves, so
then we can better share our values and
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gifts to the world.
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